Here’s what you need to know about how to be more feminine and get in touch with your feminine side. Your masculine side gets expressed when you’re working toward a goal, making progress, getting things done, and pushing forward. Your feminine side gets expressed when you move with the flow of life, embrace your creative energy, dance, play, and attune to your internal process. Importantly, these traits are not associated with gender. The set of traits we’ve come to define as “feminine” do stem from the expectations we used to place on women throughout history to behave a certain way. Likewise, the traits associated with being “masculine” are traits we used to expect from men. Today we know people of all genders can have any combination of any of these traits, and no traits are inherent to any gender or should be expected of any gender. That said, the words “feminine” and “masculine” can still be helpful in describing two different and opposing ways of being. For people of all genders, both feminine energy and masculine energy are necessary to embody in order to feel like a complete person. Men are usually encouraged to identify more with masculine energy, but there’s great joy in being able to let go and be flexible. (In fact, it’s more important than ever to raise boys without gender stereotypes!) Likewise, many women are still raised with expectations to be feminine, but there are many benefits to being clear, directive, and progressive. It’s satisfying for all of us to have outlets for both our masculine and feminine energies. When we overvalue masculinity, we spend most of our time working and very little time resting, taking vacation, and spontaneously connecting with others. Overvaluing masculinity also leads us to become dependent on man-made things, such as our smartphones and laptops, and spend less time in nature or expressing our creative selves. Being overly masculine and under-feminine leaves many of us longing for something else—something rejuvenating, something wild, something resourceful, something spontaneous. It’s the feminine! RELATED: 9 Ways To Connect To The Divine Feminine (And Why You Want To) This can be easily modified. All you have to do is internally connect to who you are. An excellent way to do this is to start therapy. When you work with a therapist to explore your thoughts and feelings, you’re essentially diving into your deeper, internal, feminine side. If you’re confused about your emotional process, don’t worry; you can learn to be more attuned to yourself. You do this by listening to how you feel and boosting your emotional intelligence. As you get to know your feeling states, you’ll automatically begin to feel more whole. Too many of us wait until our next vacation to feel relaxed and playful again. Don’t wait that long! You can have mini-vacations every day. Prioritize downtime and time for relaxation. Read books, listen to music, do yoga, and simply enjoy the moment. When you get out of your overworked state, you’ll feel more like yourself again. If things in your life are no longer working for you, it is feminine energy that surges to make a change. This can be dramatic! Destruction comes before creation; we must say goodbye to the old to welcome the new. While this process of transformation can feel unruly and scary at times, it is necessary. After all, we’re changing all the time. Without the powerful movement of feminine energy, both soothing and unnerving, we would remain stagnant. And nobody wants that. If you feel burned out, overworked, fragmented, or exhausted, you’re in desperate need of feminine energy to restore, inspire, and enliven you. Implement these practices, and the feminine will bring you back to life. If you’re wanting to get spiritual with it, consider exploring your connection to the Divine Feminine.
